I actually hate that quote b/c this fandom overuses it SO MUCH. And both the S/E and D/E sides seem to believe that that quote belongs to them exclusively. It's hilarious.
I just think that they keep each other locked in this static position of what they think they should be, because if the other believes in the act, they can believe it themselves (the pronouns got a bit messy there, but hopefully you get the idea).
Yessss, I do indeed. To expand on this--I don't think Elena chooses Stefan because he's necessarily the "safe" option. (He is safe, but in a different way.) I think Elena's insta-attraction back in S1 was dependent on the fact that he was an outsider, like her. He harboured a lot of guilt and pain and capacity for darkness, but he tried to be good. Elena's life was marked with Death, and then Death walked into her life again, but this time, Death was Good. That was the key. That was inspiring to Elena. They were both seeking the same thing (a new start, a place to belong), and they found it with each other, a way out of the darkness. BUT, of course, that only works insofar as the both of them remain free of darkness themselves.
So, yeah. What you said. I guess when I think of S/E and D/E, I have two completely different mental images. With S/E, it's the image of one person holding another's hand and leading them out of a dark room. With D/E, it's of two people sitting in that dark room together. I think you get the idea. Also, LOL @ this: Because Damon is clearly deranged, so if she matches him, well... -- Yes. Whichever way you look at it, Damon throws her off. WHICH IS WHY I LIKE THEM SO.
But Stefan is repressing, and has been denying himself for the better part of a century. That's not stalling, that's SERIOUS self-denial, but he never thought it was temporary.
WORD. It was seriously questionable for this 150+ vampire to put his life-endangering addiction in the hands of a teenage girl. Elena is boss, but she had NO CONCEPT of what it was like for him. How could she? Let's not buy into The Power of Love, dude.
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Date: 2011-12-03 06:12 am (UTC)I actually hate that quote b/c this fandom overuses it SO MUCH. And both the S/E and D/E sides seem to believe that that quote belongs to them exclusively. It's hilarious.I just think that they keep each other locked in this static position of what they think they should be, because if the other believes in the act, they can believe it themselves (the pronouns got a bit messy there, but hopefully you get the idea).
Yessss, I do indeed. To expand on this--I don't think Elena chooses Stefan because he's necessarily the "safe" option. (He is safe, but in a different way.) I think Elena's insta-attraction back in S1 was dependent on the fact that he was an outsider, like her. He harboured a lot of guilt and pain and capacity for darkness, but he tried to be good. Elena's life was marked with Death, and then Death walked into her life again, but this time, Death was Good. That was the key. That was inspiring to Elena. They were both seeking the same thing (a new start, a place to belong), and they found it with each other, a way out of the darkness. BUT, of course, that only works insofar as the both of them remain free of darkness themselves.
So, yeah. What you said. I guess when I think of S/E and D/E, I have two completely different mental images. With S/E, it's the image of one person holding another's hand and leading them out of a dark room. With D/E, it's of two people sitting in that dark room together. I think you get the idea. Also, LOL @ this: Because Damon is clearly deranged, so if she matches him, well... -- Yes. Whichever way you look at it, Damon throws her off. WHICH IS WHY I LIKE THEM SO.
But Stefan is repressing, and has been denying himself for the better part of a century. That's not stalling, that's SERIOUS self-denial, but he never thought it was temporary.
WORD. It was seriously questionable for this 150+ vampire to put his life-endangering addiction in the hands of a teenage girl. Elena is boss, but she had NO CONCEPT of what it was like for him. How could she? Let's not buy into The Power of Love, dude.