But Elena was in a holding pattern for the entirety of those two seasons. She hasn't grown~ into who she's gonna be.
I just love you. Anyway. You are ABSOLUTELY right. I see Stefan and Elena as sort of security blankets for each other. As long as they stay together, they can mutually pretend to be normal and happy and ok, because that's what they both so desperately want. But they're NOT normal or happy or ok, and the longer they keep enabling each other the longer it'll take to either embrace or get over whatever darkness is within them (I vote embrace, obviously). Elena NEEDS to lose the coddling and face up to not only what's happened but what it's made her into. She didn't really make any progress as far as growing up is concerned until after Stefan was gone. This season, she's been getting stronger, getting darker, getting smarter (sometimes...), because no one's holding her hand and telling her it's ok for her to ignore all the bad things in her life (and her soul). Stefan can't stand to see Elena turn into Katherine. Damon's ok with the fact that in many ways, she already is (and always has been) Katherine.
But oddly enough, I actually think the mutual coddling relationship is more destructive for Stefan. But that's a whole other tangent.
There is no for sure about who or what will be right for Elena in the long run. For now, I'm just glad she's grown beyond the kind, caring, compassionate, supportive girl. That's lovely and all that, but I am more than ready for badass, bitter, vengeful, functioning-brain-activity Elena. Your icon says everything.
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I just love you. Anyway. You are ABSOLUTELY right. I see Stefan and Elena as sort of security blankets for each other. As long as they stay together, they can mutually pretend to be normal and happy and ok, because that's what they both so desperately want. But they're NOT normal or happy or ok, and the longer they keep enabling each other the longer it'll take to either embrace or get over whatever darkness is within them (I vote embrace, obviously). Elena NEEDS to lose the coddling and face up to not only what's happened but what it's made her into. She didn't really make any progress as far as growing up is concerned until after Stefan was gone. This season, she's been getting stronger, getting darker, getting smarter (sometimes...), because no one's holding her hand and telling her it's ok for her to ignore all the bad things in her life (and her soul). Stefan can't stand to see Elena turn into Katherine. Damon's ok with the fact that in many ways, she already is (and always has been) Katherine.
But oddly enough, I actually think the mutual coddling relationship is more destructive for Stefan. But that's a whole other tangent.
There is no for sure about who or what will be right for Elena in the long run. For now, I'm just glad she's grown beyond the kind, caring, compassionate, supportive girl. That's lovely and all that, but I am more than ready for badass, bitter, vengeful, functioning-brain-activity Elena. Your icon says everything.