Btw, you know I'm practically using this discussion as a notepad for the meta? XD
I can't believe Damon is that secure in his sexuality.
Neither can I, mostly because Damon + 100% secure = DOES NOT COMPUTE. As you said, it's a performance and it only goes skin-deep. It's based on an assumption that in the heteronormative world, sexual provocation form a man makes people back off. He never tries this trick with Katherine (he does provoke her sexually, but only to lure her out and give himself an opening to reject her again; he doesn't try to intimidate her, because he knows it wouldn't work), and if a woman he's provoking actually started playing along, he would be completely lost. And then he would beg her to have sex with him, because if a girl can intimidate him like this, he is sure to be head over heels for her.
Now I kind of want a fic in which Elena tries to intimidate Damon with her sexualized behavior, and he is caught off-guard. I want him to be shy and in awe. Damon, my boy, you know you would.
And now I'm thinking of that hilarious moment where Elena and Alaric essentially whore Damon out to Rebekah, not even asking his opinion on the matter. XD
He wouldn't object anyway XD. He has an act to keep up, so he can't refuse to be whored out. It would ruin the entire "Damon is a sexual predator" image.
You're right with Elena being sexually assertive with Stefan, but waiting for Damon to make a move. It makes sense, I guess: Stefan is her boyfriend and she loves him, but she doesn't feel comfortable enough to even tell Caroline that she is attracted to Damon. She is ok with the fact that she has sexual needs, but being attracted to Damon still feels wrong. I guess we talked about it already? It's ok for Elena to be assertive with Stefan, but not with Damon, because she feels it's not ok for her to just want to fuck him senseless, no cozy feelings attached?
It's fascinating to me that this is the primary way by which he defines himself--by how desirable he is to others.
Well, Stefan might be about a struggle for self control, but Damon is all about power play. Which might be one of the reasons I like him so much.
And I'm glad that you mentioned that he uses it against men too, because HE TOTALLY DOES, lol.
He also tries it with Alaric, only it doesn't work at all XD. Hey, now that I think about it, Alaric must feel pretty secure in his own body. He just gracefully ignores Damon's innuendos.
Not just for the hot, but for the character development~ lmao.
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Date: 2011-12-01 10:08 am (UTC)I can't believe Damon is that secure in his sexuality.
Neither can I, mostly because Damon + 100% secure = DOES NOT COMPUTE. As you said, it's a performance and it only goes skin-deep. It's based on an assumption that in the heteronormative world, sexual provocation form a man makes people back off. He never tries this trick with Katherine (he does provoke her sexually, but only to lure her out and give himself an opening to reject her again; he doesn't try to intimidate her, because he knows it wouldn't work), and if a woman he's provoking actually started playing along, he would be completely lost.
And then he would beg her to have sex with him, because if a girl can intimidate him like this, he is sure to be head over heels for her.Now I kind of want a fic in which Elena tries to intimidate Damon with her sexualized behavior, and he is caught off-guard. I want him to be shy and in awe. Damon, my boy, you know you would.
And now I'm thinking of that hilarious moment where Elena and Alaric essentially whore Damon out to Rebekah, not even asking his opinion on the matter. XD
He wouldn't object anyway XD. He has an act to keep up, so he can't refuse to be whored out. It would ruin the entire "Damon is a sexual predator" image.
You're right with Elena being sexually assertive with Stefan, but waiting for Damon to make a move. It makes sense, I guess: Stefan is her boyfriend and she loves him, but she doesn't feel comfortable enough to even tell Caroline that she is attracted to Damon. She is ok with the fact that she has sexual needs, but being attracted to Damon still feels wrong. I guess we talked about it already? It's ok for Elena to be assertive with Stefan, but not with Damon, because she feels it's not ok for her to just want to fuck him senseless, no cozy feelings attached?
It's fascinating to me that this is the primary way by which he defines himself--by how desirable he is to others.
Well, Stefan might be about a struggle for self control, but Damon is all about power play. Which might be one of the reasons I like him so much.
And I'm glad that you mentioned that he uses it against men too, because HE TOTALLY DOES, lol.
He also tries it with Alaric, only it doesn't work at all XD. Hey, now that I think about it, Alaric must feel pretty secure in his own body. He just gracefully ignores Damon's innuendos.
Not just for the hot, but for the character development~ lmao.
OF COURSE IT'S FOR CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT!!!